We face personal worries that bullies us every day. It could be trying to get your home work done, calling for a higher pay, trying to get results, just anything. And sometimes our worries gets the best of us. it could be good thoughts and harmful on other levels. I tell people, as much as possible try to stay open minded on any matter that worries you or tabled at your feet but then people can be very funny.
Whether open minded or other wise, some people will damn tell you what they assume. Most times annoying, other times welcoming or you just feel indifferent about it.
Beef here implies… worry, vexation, feigned annoyance, not being nice and whatever you can equate it to.
Once someone told me I was shying away, being restricted. I really do not owe this person an explanation, then I ask myself, shying away from what! You want me to expose my whole life on social media? What exactly do you want from me?
See? I got beef for anyone who thinks other wise of the one true person I believe I am.
We know people would say all sorts of things they think you are, but when you don’t expect one person you think you know to say such, it’s a different matter or what the heck! I don’t know.
I just know this.
I got beef, for anyone who thinks otherwise of what I am. What are you? God?
Secondly, i do not believe in “follow me I follow you.” Gosh! Why can’t people have a mind of their own? Why do you have to try so hard to please somebody all in the name of trying to get their attention or be part of the flock! I could care less but then it is crazy! You know why?
See , I have for beef for anyone who do follow follow especially on someone’s post ( even if they post nonsense ) just because they want to count. Being a huge fan of someone doesn’t necessarily call for you to be a “stalker” at every turn and miss other important stuffs going on around you.
Do what you need do if it is necessary and get out. Some social media sites drive me nuts. You see someone post something so important, you miss it, then you see the same person post nonsense. I mean nonsense and you come up from nowhere and make a comment? The devil is really strong on this one. Who does that? Humour and free flow is necessary sometimes but not every time. Fine, people miss posts or you sometimes but then I really care less about that right now. What do you have to say if you miss someone’s post like 6 times? You can’t tell me it is unintentional. ( or is the devil strong on that one too? ) Even if it is, I refuse to take it.
What am I even saying? This is what happened somewhere. I’ll take it up on the third.
On the third roll, I have friends who are so annoying. Okay…I am as annoying as they are too… in their own eyes. Heck we are all annoying in some way if we don’t dance to specific tunes but wait! Let’s talk about it.
What is friendship?
Last time I checked, I thought friendship means being supportive of someone who you share interests with. Being encouraging to someone who needs a shoulder, being there for someone when they need you, being able to help when asked for it. To nourish and grow you, to reciprocate your love…
Friendship is a state of being. Eyes roll.
Some of my so called friends DO NONE OF THESE! Haba! And they call themselves friends.
Please, I have beef for people who see themselves as my friend and cannot help me grow better. Who the heck are you anyways? You are not my friend if you are so into yourself or just indifferent about how I feel or what I do. I mean why am I friends with you anyways? If you cannot help my life? Or the things I do? Tell me.
Thing is I don’t think there has ever been a time a friend would call for my help that I won’t be at the fore front running up and down to meet the demand but why don’t you reciprocate? Why do I have to beg you “every time” or remind you? Note the “every time” emphasis. You know what i am talking about, if you don’t, please keep your assumptions to yourself. Oh I am not important right? I should show you what it means not to be important.
Queer thing is you see some of those friends jump up and down giving a lift or a hand to other friends around you. Sometimes it’s unconscious or indirect but do I have to spell it? Even if i spell it( which I do, I mean, I am a pest.) How have you helped my life or am I asking for too much?
Honestly, i care less right now.
And for those that THINK they qualify or did all of those, please i seriously do not have time to start praising you right now. I believe you received enough gratitude at the point of helping. And I never forget help even if you can’t see that. Not in the long run so let’s leave it that way.
On a third and quarter, I equally have beef for friends or people who pretend they don’t see that you need them. Instance, if you tag me in a post, it means you need my attention on it. I try as much as possible to like or comment( if it appeals to me of course) but you can’t possibly have tagged me five of your list without me reading at least three and acknowledging it. So if I tag you in mine, why do you pretend that you didn’t see it? 1, 2,3,4,5,6 times? Not even acknowledging once or twice? I can’t listen to your explanations right now.
let us make it easier for our lives.
DON’T TAG ME to your freaking post!
On third and half, some things can get you so distracted! Even some people. Please in whatever you do or wherever you find yourself, be yourself! Don’t let anyone force you to do what you don’t wanna do! If you hurt a friend indirectly say you did something right with regards to your principles as a person and your friend(s) is annoyed with you and hurt, Please apologise, NOT BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU ARE WRONG FOR WHAT YOU DID BUT BECAUSE YOU HURT THEIR FEELINGS by doing what is right. That’s all! Never go against your principles ( the right ones) as a person because your friend expect you to do one thing and you did another. Look, we are different people, we have needs and we have expectations. If you don’t do what people expect, it is not a crime. You are entitled to do whatever you damn want as long as it hurts nobody. If it does hurt and you are CALLED to the hurt, do apologise for…( look above). It becomes a crime when a friend SEEKS your help and EXPECTS you to help and you don’t!
As I was saying, people can be distracting, I forgot I know ‘how to talk’ on paper. It was the very essence of me starting up a blog. Please, never let all these paparazi everywhere make you ‘miss road’ because it happens. Check it constantly to remind yourself of the address.
Lastly, if you have beef for me. Good for you because we are even.
I got beef for you too.
Plus I don’t need to explain myself again, I have every right as a friend to have beef for you.
Beef makes us grow and heck! I just grew taller.
Or we could make my life easier.
So I won’t have heart attack.