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Idiots Guide To The Universe 2
Unsolicited counsel is what Nigerians (and Africans) give. And most times, it leads to contempt. In fact, from my work as a change advisor, I have come to realize that when you push people to do ANYTHING before they are willing to do it, they will waste both your time and their own time. Readiness is a panacea for results.
As a life coach, I am grateful I know that I don’t have to tell people what to do. Rather, I am supposed to achieve 3 goals:
- Ask Questions
- Encourage Responsibility and
- Facilitate Change
As someone who works with people, you need to understand that:
- You should not take offense when your perspective is not taken. It is only a perspective.
- You should not insist an approach suits your approach. It is only 1 of 3,000 options per case. (Psychologists say that for every decision we want to make, we always have 3,000 options to explore).
- Your life and style is yours. Your audience have theirs too. Respect it.
When you give unsolicited counsel, you may be creating a tunnel for contempt. Learn to be asked than to tell without being asked.
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